The relationship, a family member, even a friend. We’ve all been in a situation that led to hurt. We’ve given our all to someone at some point, only to be blindsided and betrayed. Realizing that the feelings you expressed, weren’t reciprocated. Or that the relationship you thought was perfect, wasn’t.
We go through the emotions. The hurt, and then probably anger. Or vice versa, but which do you respond with?
As humans, it’s only natural for us to want to plead our case. To get to the bottom of the problem so that we can move on. Some of us may let frustration take over. Some of us just hold onto the emotions silently. But for someone who isn’t willing to reason, where does that get you?
I’m a people pleaser and I’m in no way the confrontational type. I’ve cried silently more times than I’d like to confess because flight is my go to response to uncomfortable situations.
What I’ve come to realize though, is that no matter how strongly you plead that case, you will never be able to control someone else’s emotions or their response. You can’t sway a firm opinion. You can’t force love that isn’t there. You won’t always be the good guy. Your family will disagree with you. And not everyone will like you. It’s the honest truth.
What we do have control over however, is our response to them. You can always “kill someone with kindness”. You can choose to walk away. You can also cut someone off cold turkey.
But you can also give it to God.
And that is something I’ve come to learn is so much more powerful.
You see. Arguing does nothing. Crying does nothing. But prayer? Intentional prayer? That’s something. And regardless of the outcome, regardless of if we wanted things to work or not, the result is all in God’s plan. Not ours.
So the next time you feel yourself drowning in a situation that you can’t seem to catch hold of, pray on it.
God knows your heart.
Forgiveness does not require acknowledgement from the opposite party.
And you cannot fulfill your destiny being bound emotionally. So let him break your chains.
