Proverbs 18:24
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
We’ve all been there. We’ve all hosted an event at some point in our lives and the turn out wasn’t what we expected. Maybe you posted something on social media that didn’t receive the reactions you thought it would. Maybe someone we expected to show up, didn’t.
This instantly causes feelings of self doubt. Did I do something wrong? Did I do enough? Do they even care? Will “the cool people” show up.
I’m here to tell you, less is more.
You will never find fulfillment in a large crowd who doesn’t serve to encourage you or care about your well-being; and seeking validation based on popularity will only end in disappointment.
This pertains to family as well. We should not feel obligated to include someone based on blood relations. Especially when parties keep you close to reap selfish benefits or are toxic to your environment.
It’s a little hard to grasp because the world tells us that our worth is based on popularity. That you’re “somebody” if you’re surrounded by everybody. But why would we willingly allow people in our circle who don’t genuinely love us and care about us? What’s the point?
Inviting and associating with people because of a certain status will only lead to competition and or you questioning your self worth. You’ll never be satisfied which then leads to insecurity, followed by a slew of other emotions.
You’re worth so much more than that.
You know what you bring to the table. You know the relationship you have to offer others. And I promise we both know what friends you should and shouldn’t continue to associate with.
Your party should root for you. Be strongholds for you when you’ve entered a valley, and your biggest cheerleaders while you’re on top of a mountain. They should encourage you, love you, and cherish what they have with you. Your differences shouldn’t break you, and your time apart shouldn’t define the strength of your love for each other.
True friends are a rarity. Like finding a diamond in the rough.
It’s not about the quantity of attendants in your circle, but the quality of them.
The people you choose to surround yourself with says so much about you. It’s one of the few things in this world that we actually have control of. So do your current self and your future self a favor and choose wisely.
